This is going to be our last Mother Feminist for this year as I am finishing up for Christmas! However, join us after Christmas when I already have some fantastic bloggers lined up, including the brilliant Min from Single Mum Speaks and super Sarah from Mumzilla. Anyway, on with today.
Kat from Candyfloss & Dreams
I am delighted to have the fabulous Kat from Candyfloss & Dreams on the blog today. I love Kat’s blog because she isn’t afraid to be honest and that makes her writing so endearing. This is a fantastic and feisty post on feminism. Over to Kat.
When I first read that Emma was looking for some pieces on Feminism I was like yes! I want to join in with that! I’m a feminist! But every time I went to write something I just couldn’t do it. I couldn’t write what I wanted to say and that’s because for the last year or so I guess I’ve kind of thought it wasn’t as needed as it is. That we lived in a pretty good world really and that women had things better than they did.
But feminism isn’t about having things better than we did. It is about being equal. It is about women being equal to men.
Two things happened recently that made me realise we’re not equal, gender to gender because we’re still fighting a patriarchal system that’s been set up since, well, practically the beginning of time. Those two things were Trump being elected and attending Blogfest for the first time.
Firstly, I have to say, that there are more and more men that are saying they are a feminist. That will join the fight for equal women’s rights and that those men that want gender equality need representing across the board. I also have to say that it’s not always the men that prove to us time and time again that feminism is needed. Sometimes, it’s women who let down the sisterhood that should be feminism. Sometimes it’s those feminists with really extreme man hating penis bashing views that let the side down. Sometimes it’s massive corporations that show us why we still need feminism.
Why women would vote for someone that comes across as sexist and misogynistic is beyond me. I don’t really care what people say or don’t say about him, that is how he comes across from crass comments made that just aren’t needed and shouldn’t be said in this day and age.
We need feminism because women should be allowed to work part time in a job they have experience for, that they’re great at, and not have to take a massive pay cut just because they took some time out to have kids.
We need feminism because no women should ever be asked when she’s going to settle down and have kids. Not every women wants children, that is totally fine. Just because we are the only ones on the planet that have the necessities to actually have kids, doesn’t mean that it’s our obligation to do so. Children should be brought into a world by parents that want them, not because a women is told she should.
We need feminism because of equal positive discrimination. I’m sorry but I don’t want to be the token women in the workplace because it makes your statistics look good. I want to know I am good at my job and that I deserve it. If a man, or another woman, or a fricking slug is better than me at doing a job, then give it to them, I can woman up and move on, don’t just give me a job because you need to have a woman there. That’s just stupid.
But then that being said if we didn’t have those token women in those positions, working a job they’re amazing at but mainly being hired because they needed a woman there, we wouldn’t be able to push forward and ensure women get equal working rights.
That’s the catch isn’t it? There isn’t just simple equality. It’s because women need to fill a quota to make a system look good. And that is just a load of BS.
I need feminism because I have a six year old daughter who I want to grow up in a world where she can actually do whatever she wants to do. I don’t want her to grow up in a culture of rape jokes, victimisation, sexism or fear of judgement because she’s got a vagina. And I want to show her that women are strong, viable and worth more at home, in the workplace or wherever they want to be.
I might not be able to do much, but I have a voice and I am going to start using it more to show that feminism isn’t a dirty word, it’s a simple movement that needs to be pushed forward so that gender equality is no longer an issue. Perhaps this is something that can only be done with evolution, but we can certainly join our voices together and push feminism forward along the way.
Thanks Kat. Are you going to join Kat? I agree with Kat, we need to start using our voices, we need to be shouting from the rooftops! Feminism is not a dirty word.
Kayleigh goes by the blogging alias Kat over at Candyfloss & Dreams and blogs about life, family and travel. She has recently decided to talk more openly about mental health, particularly her own difficulties, in the hope of reaching others and showing there’s more to life than your mental state.
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