Something has been niggling at me. I say “something” but in reality it is a person, a blue-blooded person. A person who I find my views in conflict with. A person who represents a party that I don’t agree with. A person who I don’t particularly like. Yet, I found myself pinning my hopes on her and now she has taken those hopes and smashed them to smithereens.
Yes, I feel let down by Theresa May.
Why Do I Feel Let Down By Theresa May?
I feel ludicrous for feeling this way. I’m not a Tory. I blame them for Brexit. I blame them for sucking the joy out of our education system. Classrooms that were once full of joy and enlightenment are now soulless factories churning out robots trained to repeat facts. I blame the Tories and therefore Theresa for so much, yet, I had pinned my hopes on her. So disturbed am I by this revelation that I found myself googling “Theresa May has let me down” to see if anyone else has voiced similar opinions and the only person I find is David Cameron who is whingeing about how Theresa let him down when it came to Brexit.
Join the club David, I mutter, join the fricking club.
Have I Been Sexist?
So why do I feel so let down? It’s then that it occurs to me that maybe I have been sexist in my beliefs. Did I hope for better from Theresa because she is a woman? In a world that elected Trump as President did I see Theresa May as a symbol for hope, just because she is a woman? Did I think she would be better just because she is a woman? Just because she was Prime Minister did I see it as a victory for feminism? I think that I probably did and in some ways that makes me no better than the people who voted for Trump. Theresa did promise us so much. She championed women in politics (in 2005 she cofounded Women2Win) and she extended domestic violence protections. On the other hand we have child benefits cut, and attacks on social care amongst other things. Theresa is no feminist but I hoped that by having a female PM we might have someone who could sort out the post-Brexit mess of the UK.
Good grief I stereotyped her!
I thought she would come in and clean-up the mess left by David Cameron. Boy was I wrong. Being female didn’t mean that she would do a better job and it didn’t mean that she would fix everything.
I Made May Mum
Somehow I ended up confusing Theresa May’s role. I thought that she would come in put a big plaster on everything and tell us that everything was going to be all right. I did this because she is female. I put her in the mothering role: I am an idiot. Being female doesn’t mean she is any better than her male counterpart, being female doesn’t mean that she is more sensible or more likely to have better empathy skills than her male counterparts. Theresa has a fragile ego just like the rest of them and as a result she has put the UK into an even bigger mess.
We Are Not Forward Thinking
All because we have a female Prime Minister doing the job doesn’t mean that this was a feminist success for the UK. It wasn’t an example of the UK being more forward thinking than the States. Theresa had that job because she was simply the last (wo)man standing. I mistakenly saw her as representing equality, I thought that she was an example to us women that we could have it all. She isn’t. As I struggle to forge myself a career that is flexible and still allows me to be there for my children I took heart from Theresa being Prime Minister. I thought that she was a symbol for hope. That perhaps one day I would be able to have it all. Yes, I am totally ignoring the fact that Theresa doesn’t have children but you get the gist! I PLACED MY MISPLACED HOPE IN HER. I even ignored her comment about the “men” jobs in the household. I put that down to nerves. Her whole campaign cannot be attributed to nerves. Corbyn was far better, his policies made sense (yes, some of them were flawed), he was personable. He spoke AND LISTENED. It has occurred to me that Jeremy Corbyn is more feminist than Theresa May!
I Was A Fool Falling For Elitist Feminism
I was a fool. I fell for the worst kind of feminism. Elitist feminism. It’s very easy to say that you are a feminist when you are in a position of power. However, it is our actions that we are judged on. May is a failed feminist. She could have been a role-model for young girls. She could have inspired, instead she has let me down, my girls down and women everywhere down. Now just as I was thinking she could stoop no lower she has formed an alliance with DUP. A political group that don’t think women should have the right to choose an abortion. Hardly a shining example of equality. Theresa has also reincarnated Gove. A man who was responsible for sucking the joy out of teaching. Urgh.
Now I am beginning to wonder if we are seeing Theresa’s true colours. I suspect we are and it’s leaving a bad taste in my mouth. Theresa you have let women down. You might have punched your way through the glass ceiling but it seems you left your ideals on the floor below.