Moving house can be stressful, add children into the mix and your blood-pressure will be soaring. Moving house is considered to be one of the most stressful life events. Yet, in the last 5 years we have moved house 3 times and we are in the process of moving again. I know, anyone would think that I am flighty ;-). After our move to Jersey, I would say that I am practically a moving house expert. I should consider retraining and offering my services as relocation packer-upper and moving house de-stresser. I learnt a lot from my experience of moving house from Yorkshire to Jersey. Namely – don’t let your husband move to Jersey ahead of you, leaving you to pack up the whole house, with the children, on your own! To be fair to Mr C he had no choice, he had to work. However, moving house without Mr C meant that I also learnt some other little nuggets of wisdom.
- Check that the removal company realise that you are paying for them to pack-up the house. In my case I ended up staying up through the night to pack the house up.
- Check that the removal company who are coming from flat Jersey realise that Yorkshire is hilly and that your house is on a hill. When they told me it was against health and safety to load the removal van up with my furniture I may have cried. Thank goodness for my neighbour who came to my rescue.
Now we are getting ready to move again and I am thinking about what I would do differently this time. Moving house means that we are so frantically busy that we forget about the impact a house move can have on the children. Therefore, I have come up with my top tips for moving house with children.
Top tips for moving house with children
- Prepare the children. Once you know that you are definitely moving house talk to the children. This time of moving can have a massive impact on them. Talk to them about why you are moving and explain why it is a fantastic opportunity. What will they be getting in their new house that they don’t have here? Perhaps it might be a bigger bedroom, their own bedroom, close to friends or close to the park etc.
- Encourage them to share how they are feeling. They might be upset about moving home or they might even be angry. Encourage them to talk about it. Share what you will all miss about your old house. For us we were moving from the UK to Jersey. This meant that we were leaving our family and friends behind. For Oldest this was something that she struggled with. Her Dad had already gone to Jersey and now we were going to be following him, leaving behind the place she knew and felt secure. This was combined with the fact that she was going to be starting a new school almost as soon as she arrived in Jersey. We had lots of conversations about what we would miss but then also discussed what we were looking forward to.
- Take them to see the new house. Taking Oldest to Jersey and taking her round where we were going to be moving to meant that she felt involved in the process. She was able to choose her room and she was able to visualise where we were moving to. This was very important in helping her feel secure and happy with the fact that we were moving.
- Visual reminder. Take a photo of the house you will be moving to and stick it somewhere everybody can see. Use it as a way of discussing the house on a daily basis. Get your child involved. “Look at the garden, do you think it will be nice to play in there during the summer?” Talk about their bedroom and where they would like their furniture to go.
- Have a plan and stick to it. This isn’t always possible depending on exchange and completion but having a date that you are all aiming for will help your child with feeling that they are in control. Have a calendar where they can see it and have the date circled. Cross off the days leading up to the moving date. That way they are feeling prepared.
- Get your children involved in the packing. Giving them responsibility will help them feel part of the process and again they will feel in control. Ask them to choose what they definitely would like to take with them. Also, ask if there are any toys that they would like to give to the charity shop before they move.
- On the day of the move. Is there a special toy or photo that your child has to have? Make sure that it isn’t packed. The day of the move will be chaotic and having their favourite toy will be their security blanket. It also means that when they arrive at the new house they something that is familiar to them and they will feel reassured.
Our top tips for moving house with children will help make it a stress free experience for the children. Do you have any tips that you would add?
How to make the house move easier for you!
It is all well and good sharing our top tips for moving house with children but how about making the process easier for ourselves! A moving house checklist will ensure that the whole process is as stress free as possible. If you are calm and organised then your children are going to be feeling calm and positive and moving house will be easier for everyone involved. On The Dot Removals have come up with a fantastic moving house checklist. It is brilliant and breaks down what you need to be thinking about a couple of months before the move, 6 weeks before the move through to the actual day before the move. I only wish that I had seen this before we moved to Jersey. It makes the whole daunting process so much more manageable. Print it off, stick it up and tick it off as you progress.
If you are moving house soon then good luck! We would love to hear your tips for moving house with children.
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