The other day I wrote about a highly emotive subject – refugees. My first attempt at writing a refugee post consisted of me basically ranting about the media; liking them to a fascist press, then calling the checking of teeth inhumane. I then rounded the post off by claiming that thanks to Brexit the UK was going to be left in a bunker alone, holding a gun to its head. I love a good rant but even by my standards I was being very RANTY.
I then decided that this rant wasn’t going to help matters, if anything it was rather inflammatory. As a result, I censored my opinions and I tried to write a more balanced report. Was this called for though? Was I being true to myself? I have become more aware of being careful with my words recently. A post that I wrote about the Ched Evans’ case made me feel like I was walking along a tightrope. I had to be very careful with my wording. However, despite being very careful with my words I still received a comment from Johnny H who told me, amongst other things,
“So to all the female sanctimonious ‘bleeding heart liberals’ feeling sorry for her, it’s time to take a reality check and accept that you can’t have it both ways. If you really want respect in society, then you’ve got to earn it. Just spare us all the hypocritical ‘I was treated like meat’ nonsense every time you decide to act like a total slut and don’t like the outcome. You know what they say……’if you can’t handle the heat then it’s probably best that you stay out of the kitchen!’
Put simply, perhaps it’s time to put more effort into keeping your options open and your legs shut!”
Johnny, thanks for your comment. However, if you don’t like what you read then may I suggest you don’t read it.
Stopping myself from sharing my real feelings
I am not a person who likes conflict or confrontation; I will do anything to avoid it. Hence my reputation for saying sorry, all of the time. I try to be braver when I blog. I wasn’t always this way. When I started blogging I stuck to safe subjects. My very first post was an inane one about welly boots. However, as has time progressed I used my blog as an outlet for my feelings. I write from the heart and these posts have been some of my most post popular ones. Therefore, why am I now being a little more cautious?
Tackling big subjects
When I am talking about subjects that haven’t affected me directly I feel as if I have a duty to respect everyone’s opinions and to represent both sides. The refugee crisis is a prime example. I do believe that the media reporting on the refugee crisis as a whole has been appalling and not representative of the whole story. However, I am also aware what can happen if I had gone down the first route, the route where I am comparing our press to fascists. Also, it is such an emotive subject that I was letting my emotions run away from me. Therefore, I tried to present a more balanced view of what was happening. I tried to write a calm piece. I restrained myself. Yet, if you want me to talk about education, being a stay-at-home mum, or a feminist (sorry about that Johnny H), then these are subjects that have affected me directly and therefore I don’t feel the need to be restrained. Why? Because I am talking about it from my perspective.
I’m not holding back
I’m not holding back, I’m still being honest, it’s just that I am more aware of the need to be careful.
I will still be sharing my rants, I will still be sharing what I think. However, sometimes you may find me trying to be more balanced. If I am, then there is a reason for this. Whilst I am not entirely comfortable with the need for censorship, I also have to accept it-sometimes.
This is me. My blog reflects me. One thing I won’t be censoring is my feelings. I will still be sharing those!
Do you agree that sometimes we need to censor ourselves? I would love to know your thoughts.
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