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The ‘F’ Word.
Feminism. When did it turn into such a dirty word? A word that instantly labels you a bra burning man hating hippie. I’m none of those things (I wish I had more bras, to be honest) but I am a feminist.
I don’t hate ALL men, I married one in fact, and love looking sexy as hell on the very rare night we get to go out. So what’s with all these high profile women, like Meryl Streep and Marion Cotillard going on about then they say they aren’t feminists?
At its stripped down core, feminism means
“a person who believes in social, political and economic equality of the sexes.”
So hating men and loving women actually has nothing at all to with feminism. Feminism is all about equality for all, regardless of what sex you are. Period. (See what I did there?)
Right now, genders still aren’t equal. Society tells us that quick enough. Men still have trouble getting flexible working; have to fight hand tooth and nail to get rewarded full child custody and can’t even change their own kid’s nappies in the men’s loos because they aren’t kitted out.
Rather than being man-hating, us feminists believe men are equally able to do things we women can do, such as be amazing parents.
As important as mum staying at home is, it is my belief and feminists view, that equally, dad should be able to be home while mum works.
Feminism is about choice. What gender you are shouldn’t make an ounce of a difference on anything.
Being a feminist is about fighting for ALL our rights. I love it when a guy holds the door open for me because I can’t get the buggy through as well, or when he offers to help me with my bags at the till. I accept. It doesn’t make me weak to ask for help from a man.
What I don’t like or want is to be told what I SHOULD do when it’s different from my male colleagues. I shouldn’t have to wear heels, just because it makes my legs go on for miles or wear makeup because it covers up my bad acne. I want to be able to wear flats if the feeling takes me or buy a beer with my girls without being called “butch” because I don’t fit a stereotype.
So if a tiny part of you believe in reproductive rights for all; equal pay for equal work, workplace fairness, regardless of gender; diversity in the media; equal education and good old basic gender equality, then my goodness, heaven above, you’re a feminist. Shocker!
So are many people, but they just haven’t realised it yet.
I’m okay if you’d prefer not to be a feminist. That’s fine by me. Feminism is about empowering everyone, regardless of their genitalia.
So much love for this post. I love how Laura reminds us what is at the core of feminism and how it isn’t about perpetuating stereotypes. Do you agree with Laura, is feminism about equality for all?
I’m Laura, a mum of two small girls and currently (possibly) under the influence of no sleep. The Unsung Mum is a funny parenting blog that laughs in the face of parenting fails.
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WE NEED YOU!
We are the real face of feminism. We are reclaiming it and redefining it. Yes, we might have children but we can still be a feminist. Us mothers want our voices to be heard too. We are part of the feminist movement. We want to be seen and heard! The Mother Feminist series is inviting all of you to share what feminism means to you:
- Do you like the term feminism?
- What does feminism mean to you?
- Do you call yourself a feminist?
- Has your outlook on feminism changed post-children?
I want to hear your opinions, ideals and feminist role-models. If you would like to get involved then please drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org