Happy International Women’s Day
It is a day to share why women are brilliant and awesome. I didn’t get the memo. Instead I am sharing why I am a bad feminist….sometimes.
I call myself a feminist. Am I though? If I am then I must accept that in reality I am a bad feminist. Yes, I believe in the deeper issues. I want equality for all but on a day to day basis *whispers* I want Mr C to take the rubbish out. Yes, I am a bad feminist or am I even worse? Am I a faking feminist? No, because I believe that women have the right to be free, equal and respected. Yet as I have already proven, I am full of contradictions.
Therefore, I thought that I would celebrate why I am a bad feminist. This is also how The Guilty Feminists start their podcasts. If you haven’t listened to them then you really should, they are brilliant.
Here are my 16 reasons why I am a bad feminist
- I’m a feminist but most of the time Mr C takes the bins out.
- I’m a feminist but after Ryan Gosling made that feminist speech at the Golden Globes I have been having inappropriate dreams about playing with Ryan’s globes and he is not allowed to speak. I use him for his body. I treat him like a piece of meat.
- I’m a feminist but when I say to Mr C that
“I’m fine, everything is absolutely fine”
I’m really not and instead of saying it how it is, I expect Mr C to decipher the code. *Hangs head in shame*
- I’m a feminist but I love hip-hop and rap music. The type of music where the singer refers to women in general as b&tches. One of my favourite songs might also be Private Dancer by Tina Turner -
“I’m a private dancer, dancer for money”.
- I’m a feminist but I will always claim that I can’t read a map. I just can’t be bothered.
- I’m a feminist but I have been known to ask Mr C
“Does my bum look big in this?”
- I am a feminist but I declared that I was going to share my Moonwalk training it all its glory and I haven’t! I haven’t shared any photos of me post-exercise because I look like an angry beetroot. I am vain.
- I am feminist but I binge watch Sex and the City and I fantasise about being Carrie, having that walk in wardrobe full of shoes and having a Mr Big who showers me with material possessions.
- I am a feminist but when I was forced off the road and punctured my tyre I freaked out as I didn’t know what to do. I had to ring Mr C. In my defence I had just been forced off the road.
- I am a feminist but I love Dirty Dancing, especially the part where Baby is rescued by Jonny
“No one puts Baby in a corner”
Swoons! I might also still daydream about being lifted high-up in the air by the very strong Jonny
- I’m a bad feminist because all of my life I declared that I would never get married and then I met Mr C…….Yep, look how that one panned out.
- I’m a bad feminist because I declared that I would have it all. That I would have my career and my children. Then I had my second child and I left behind my career in the blink of an eye.
- I’m a bad feminist because if the house is a mess then I will apologise to Mr C and claim that I have been very busy, instead of owning it and admitting that really I have been watching This Morning.
- I’m a bad feminist because I claim that I read the Daily Mail online so that I can understand how we ended up in a world with Brexit and Trump for president. Really it is so I can peruse the toolbar of shame and catch-up on what the Kardashians are doing.
- I’m a bad feminist because I spent the whole of the last week organising all of the drawers in the house. I was then so proud of what I had achieved that I took a picture of one of the drawers and sent it to Mr C.
- I am a bad feminist because ever since I organised the drawers Mr C is not allowed to put anything away. I have to do it all. I’m one step away from wearing a maid’s uniform.
Despite these 16 reasons proving that I am a bad feminist, feminism is still something that I am embracing. When I first moved to Jersey and became a stay-at-home mum I felt trapped. Feminism gave me back my freedom. My feminism might be flawed but I will continue to use my voice, I will continue to raise my voice because we should all be embracing our feminism, flaws and all.
I am a flawed feminist 😉 Who is with me?
I’m with you! We’re all messy contradictions doing our best. Love the Guilty Feminist Podcast too. Deborah Frances White is amazing
Me! I’m with you, as I’m definitely flawed. What a great, fun post with a serious message.
I knew it. Ha you all sit around watching This Morning and blame the fact nothing is done on the kids. Shush I’ve often been on my own with Little Miss OMG and spent my time lost on Twitter and then blamed her for not cleaning out the fire, putting the bins in etc etc
Great post. I don’t think to be a feminist you have to burn your bra and publicly berate any man who holds a door open for you.
I really loved this Emma. I feel like a bad feminist because I’m a stay at home mum. I’m with you on the bins too. #FridayFrolics
I so bloody love binge festing on the Kardashians…*hangs my head in shame….but rips it back up again to see just what Kim is up to now… Love this post; me all over. #FridayFrolics
Yes! Another great post Emma. I think we are all bad feminists! But we can be a feminist and still strive to be the woman that we want to be. Even if that involves a walk in closet…. xx
I’m with you… a complete flawed feminist too! HATE maps, can NEVER have it all, and so love Dirty Dancing!
#FridayFrolics
I am basically the worst feminist on the planet! This makes me feel so much better.
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I’m also a bad feminist. I don’t believe anyone should have it all. Would a feminist embrace being a SAHM and dependant on her husband’s money? Doubt it.
#fridayfrolics
I love Dirty Dancing too. Since feminism is about equal rights for all and empowering all people to live their lives as they see fit, you’re not really a bad feminist. This is the life you have chosen for yourself of your own free will. If it works for you and for your husband then you’re a perfectly fine feminist. #FridayFrolics
HA!!! You’re my kind of feminist!!! I want equality too, but you know what I want even more….
I want the hubby to do the dirty work at home and treat me like a fragile little princess….but still tell me I’m equal. 🙂
#FridayFrolics
Great post! I am also a bad feminist. Glad I am not alone.
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I’m so like this too esp the bins, but we can still be feminist’s and strong women without having follow it to the extreme ….as long as we support each other and have each others backs I’m not too worried. I too love dirty dancing and don’t get me started on maps
Haha, you are right! I’m glad that I am not the only one who despises maps!
I thought feminism was about having choices. Like the choice to care about the size of your bum, for example! I do take out the bins though. Not just cos I’m on my own either - I always did do the bins every week even when there was a man. Go me! Can’t change a tyre though! #FridayFrolics
Haha, yep, feminism is all about choice 🙂
I’m SO with you. Except…I’m not a feminist. At all. Gasp!